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Top 5 Ways to Show Sincerity in Conversation |
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Monday, 26 February 2007 |
Many times in society today people encounter others who don't seem sincere. Whether it be a business deal, a date, or something else, it seems that true sincerity is hard to discern nowadays, because people don't always exhibit the physical signs that indicate that they are sincere. While this may be common sense to some people, it may be a new concept for those who weren't raised to know these things, or never learned them socially. It is also useful for those of us who are shy, or have trouble confronting people.
1. Always look them in the eye:
When you are talking to someone, whether it is a businessperson you are dealing with, or a potential date, look into their eyes for the majority of the conversation. If it is a woman, and you are a man, do not look down, because she will think you are looking at her chest. Regardless of sex, don't look past them, as it sends the message that you aren't interested in them or what they have to say. If you have trouble looking directly into their eyes, focus your eyes on their eyebrows, and they will not know the difference.
2. Don't blink:
You can blink, but only do it when your eyes start to feel dry. Blinking repeatedly shows signs of insincerity, and can also make the other person believe you are lying.
3. The Handshake:
Don't be afraid to reach out and grab their hand if they don't offer to shake your hand. On the other end of the conversation, don't be afraid to offer your hand first. Whatever the case, make sure to not have a "dead man's grip," make sure you firmly grasp their hand and give it enough squeezing pressure to show that you are enthusiastic, and sincere.
4.Body Language
Make sure that you don't look at the ground, or anything than the person you are talking to. Use your hands to talk as your discussion progresses, and don't be monotone. Modulate your voice's volume and frequency, to help your subject see your enthusiasm. Don't be afraid to be in your subject's "personal bubble" just a bit.
5.Touching
This is really important if it is a potential date you are talking to, and can be useful in other situations as well. Make sure to keep your eyes on theirs, and not on the area of their body you are touching. For potential dates, gently move one of your hands onto one of his/her arms just below the shoulder, and squeeze gently, and leave it there for 3-4 seconds. You will know when the time is right, as this technique is good to show emphasis. In a non-date situation, this is a good method too. At the end of the conversation a hug (for dating situations) or a good pat on the back is a great way to close the conversation.
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